They are scared to invest in themselves. They are scared to admit what they are facing and value themselves enough. They are afraid to express their need to invest in their future. Doubts, fears, unexpressed emotions, others’ opinion and the way they see themselves are the excuses that don’t let them make the first step to their desirable destination.
So, I decided to share with you part of my journey which has been long, sometimes stormy and sometimes sunny. But sure, I would not change any part of it.
Approximately 4 years ago, I woke up and I couldn’t find the courage to get out of bed. This didn’t come out of the blue. Now I can see clearly that was pilling up, but I was ignoring it. Back that day I couldn’t understand what was going on. Why? What happened? I had followed all the rules, playing safely and with no high risks in order to acquire the key of a happy life. I was happy!!! Or not? The truth is that I was unhappy. I was lost and with no purpose in my life. I had a good job and a life that everyone was considering it as “perfect under these circumstances’’. And that’s exactly what was holding me back. The ‘’under these circumstances’’ mindset that I had built during the years. This has taught me to play safe, to settle for less, to compare myself with others, and the result was one and only. To keep on playing safe, to pretend being happy and not try to go higher.
But that day I had to admit it. ‘’These circumstances’’ will always be part of my life. I have no right to give excuses and keep on avoiding to do what I had to for me and my future. I had to look deep inside me and be honest. I needed to listen to myself and take care of me. That exactly was the moment I decided to hire a Life Coach. I can remember saying to my family and friends that I would invest €3,000 into myself. To find answers and a build the life that I deserve. I can remember them telling me “With this money you can do anything else. Paying for a Life Coach? This is for people who don’t have anywhere else to spend their money”. But I was feeling the need. The urge for my life. That day, I stayed in my car crying one whole hour feeling confused, week and with no power.
I finally got up the courage to go FOR IT & no one supported me at the beginning. I really considered backing out. Little did I know. This experience was the GROWTH I have been asking for. Was the answer into my questions about what I was meant to do in this world. B/C you know what was going to be required to create the life I was asking for? >> The ability to trust myself SO deeply that I was willing to make uncomfortable decisions and stick by them no matter WHAT! And sure yes, I could have spent that money to do and buy “something else” or keep on saying ‘’under these circumstances’’ it’s not a good time, let’s play safe. But thanks God, I bought the opportunity to become who I am today!! And that’s given me a successful business that helps other women to find their purpose in life and build their own businesses. A relationship that feels like love story every day. AND the life I ALWAYS wanted...I must admit it! That was the best damn decision and investment I have ever made.
I have been there, and I know the path looks dark, uncertain, lonely, and scary. I will give you the 1st exercise so you will get unstuck and you will find the courage to make your first step forward. Observe your thoughts. Think about the change you want to achieve in your life. Write down how it makes you feel your new future reality. Then write down what thoughts came automatically in your mind and stopped you from making the 1st step for your new life. Are their starting point feelings like fear, doubts, others’ opinion, lack of self-confidence? Do they start with a ‘’What if…’’ following ALWAYS by a negative outcome? If yes, then ignore them and make your first step! Change the ‘’What if…’’ with a positive outcome and do your best to achieve it.
